A few days ago, something terrible happened at our house. Those of you with children will understand the gravity of my situation.
We lost Doug.
Can you see the love in Twizzler’s face for his favorite dog? This picture was taken almost exactly a year ago. Doug has been Twizzler’s security, his friend, his sleeping buddy for years. Twizzler takes Doug to play with him at his best friend’s house. He sits him on the stool next to him while he eats breakfast. He includes him in everything. Homework. Play. Sleep. Doug is always there. Twizzler talks to him, explains things to him with great patience, asks him questions and waits for an answer. Doug is immensely important to my little boy.
And Doug is lost.
Yesterday, I suggested to Twizzler that he should look for Doug after school or in the morning, and not frantically each night before bed. He turned it around to me and said, “Well, do you have an idea where he is?”
No, I have no idea.
“No, Mom, I don’t mean do you know where he is. Just do you have an idea?”
Twizzler, We’ve looked everywhere I can think. I don’t have any other ideas.
“But you are supposed to have an idea. You’re the mom!”
His statement struck me. Is it the mom’s duty to have an answer to every question? To know where to look for lost items? Is it the mom’s job to KNOW?
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Unfortunately, it IS in the job description **sigh** I feel your pain and can relate because I've searched the house and school up and down for the 1/2 inch by 2 inch droid that #2 son is currently attached to…still hoping for a happy reunion
Oh, no! I hope you find Doug. My boys each have a little lovey and have to have it with them!
Haha! I have that ability, too, and it drives my husband and kids crazy!
My mom has always had this amazing ability to find things. I can search for hours on end for a misplaced piece of paper, and she'll walk right in and find it within less than 30 seconds. It drives me nuts. She claims I'll get the power when I become a mother, but I find that statement debatable.
Blog-hopped over here from c jane's forum and am glad.
A few months ago, I was the one who lost Barkers, my son's first puppy. I left him on an airplane, realized it too late, and was stricken. My boy won't remember – he was 18 months old – but I was traumatized by the loss and the fault!
I have grown siblings who definitely still expect the mom to KNOW. Yikes!
Oh I hope not… I know NOTHING! :) This Mom knows so little….
I have a sneaking suspicion that one of the older girls is not telling
the truth……that maybe Doug didn't disappear on his own.
T is handling it rather well. But he really misses Doug.
Oh no! If we lost Ted, catastrophe would be imminent!
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It is the mom's job. We have had multiple missing items and mom always has to find them or have an idea where they might be. I love the fact that he just wanted your idea though that is so cute!
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How funny! I'm glad I'm not the only one, then! I've heard it from other moms, too. The funny thing is, I usually DO know.
Funny you should post this, Tara and I had a conversation about my apparent responsibility to know where EVERYTHING is, even if I was not the last one to use it. I can't tell you how many times a day I hear -'Where is my camera”, “where are my jeans”, where is insert just about anything here” I asked her why she thought I should be required to note the location of every one of her belongings, and that maybe, just maybe if she were to put things back “where they belong” she would always know where they were. Her problem is, nothing really has a “place”…. So I guess it must be the mom's duty! But is is supposed to help us find the things that we misplace because we get distracted by the needs of our family?