Food Fun Family

A family lifestyle blog about food, family, entertainment, travel and family-friendly products.

  • Home
  • Food
    • All Recipes
    • Main Dishes
    • Desserts
    • Side Dishes
    • Vegetarian dishes
    • Delicious Dishes Recipe Party
    • Recipe Round Ups
    • 15 Minute Suppers
    • Recipe Box
  • Family
    • Tips for Moms
    • Family life
    • Holidays & Celebrations
    • Savvy Living
  • Creative Life
    • Crafts + projects
    • DIY Bath & Body Products
    • Printables and Activity Sheets
    • Photography Tutorials
    • Give Me Your Best Shot – Photostory Friday
  • Travel
  • Entertainment
    • Giveaways
    • Book Club
    • Movies
    • Printables and Activity Sheets
    • Blog prompts
  • About
    • Contact Me
    • Privacy Policy
    • Advertise
    • Site Map – Find Your Way Around
  • Lollidale Goats
    • Our Does
You are here: Home / Family life / Holidays & Celebrations / It’s Not Mother’s Day ‘Til Someone Says, “I Hate You, Mom!”

It’s Not Mother’s Day ‘Til Someone Says, “I Hate You, Mom!”

Monday, May 13, 2013 by Lolli 7 Comments

I don’t have many (high) expectations for Mother’s Day. As long as I can get a nap (the height of luxury) and, if possible, avoid cooking all day, then I can end the day relatively satisfied.

Why is it, then, that I come to the end of most Mother’s Days feeling like a horrible, unappreciated mom?

mother's day "I hate you, Mom!"

Yesterday was going fairly well…It started with a dozen roses on Saturday night, and then I was ordered to stay in bed after my alarm went off while my husband and youngest son conspired to cook me a “surprise” breakfast (AJ was sorely disappointed when he discovered that Daddy had let the surprise slip when he asked me what I’d like for breakfast).

I had requested my no-fail waffles, but didn’t realize before hand that CandyMan had never made the batter. He made two fatal mistakes: he used only all purpose flour instead of mostly wheat and he added extra milk because the batter was too “thick.” They weren’t horrible, but they weren’t “my” waffles. The good part, though? I had a sit-down, hot breakfast with my whole family.

I opened my one (non-roses) present – candy (I really have to remember to tell them which candies I want next year!) – and tried not to dwell on the fact that only one of my five children bothered to do anything for Mother’s Day. Apparently, they’re all too old for making cute cards with hand prints on them.

Church went well, especially towards the end when the men took over all of the classes and gave all of the women 20 minutes to sit, chat, and enjoy cheesecake. We drove home and I got ready for my nap.

I hadn’t fallen asleep yet when AJ came up to the bedroom, climbed up to snuggle with me, and ended up staying for some one-on-one time. I was happy to have him. We made some last plans for his upcoming baptism and then he asked to play a game on my iPad.

“No, not right now,” I said, calmly.

“Yes! I want to play that game. You’re mean if you don’t let me play!”

Wow, that escalated quickly. But I stuck with my first answer. “No, I’m going to try to take my nap now. Why don’t you go downstairs and read.”

“I HATE you, Mommy! I hate you!”

I’ve been a mother for enough years that this phrase tends to make me roll my eyes rather than run to the other room crying. Yesterday, AJ got the eye roll…but I was instantly done with him interrupting my nap time.

Unfortunately, he wasn’t done.

“I hate you, Mommy,” he said as he grabbed a dollar bill off the desk and started scrunching it up in his hands. The money made my blood boil a bit and I hopped out of bed to stop him. He saw me coming and scooted quickly to his room, where he barricaded himself behind his door. I got the door open and demanded that he give me the dollar. Whining and yelling at me, he finally showed me where he had thrown it. I picked the dollar up about the same time that he picked up the basket full of clean, folded socks. Holding it high over his head, he threatened to dump it out.

At this point, all I could think about was how quiet the house was. Why in the world was no one coming to Mom’s rescue on Mother’s Day?

The socks did, indeed, get dumped. I grabbed him from his bed, where he had fled this time, and ordered him to pick them up. He refused and instead laid another big one on me:

“Why are you being so MEAN on Mother’s Day?”

I shot back with, “Shouldn’t I be the one asking that question?”

I gave up. I tried going to sleep, but my heart was pounding too fast for sleep to come, so I ended up reading a book instead. 10 minutes later, I walked downstairs, where I found AJ looking out the front window, waiting for Dad to come back from a Mother’s Day flower delivery to some other local moms.

Being a Mom is hard work. I love that we have a day to celebrate the moms in our lives, and I certainly love my own mom (and mother in law – I’ve been blessed). But I think Mother’s Day is too much pressure. I’m kind of glad I don’t have to go through Mother’s Day for another year.

© 2013, Food Fun Family. All rights reserved.

About Lolli

Lolli has written 3740 post in this blog.

I became a mom in 1996, and in 2005 I had my fifth. Yes, 5 kids. In 2007, this blog was born (my 6th baby that will never grow up) and I've been sharing recipes, photography tricks, parenting tips, and everything in between. (Formerly Better in Bulk)

  • View all posts by Lolli →
  • Blog
  • Twitter
  • Facebook

Filed Under: Holidays & Celebrations, Parenting Tagged With: Holidays & Celebrations, Mothers day, Parenting

« Waffle Iron Strawberry Shortcake Recipe
The New Nintendo Wii U – Fun for All Ages at Our #WiiU Party »

Comments

  1. Lolli says

    Monday, May 12, 2014 at 9:16 am

    Uh oh! I always say…I keep my expectations low! Luckily this Mother’s Day was actually quite pleasant!

  2. brett says

    Monday, May 12, 2014 at 9:08 am

    i’ve never had a perfect mothers day. which is fine. as long as i don’t have to spend it with my mother in law i’m happy. she’s not a nice lady. ;(

  3. Jennifer Sikora says

    Wednesday, May 15, 2013 at 9:12 am

    I totally understand that. While I got what I wanted as a gift for Mother’s Day, I truly wanted my family to cookout and just hang at the house cooking and having fun. My husband decided to take us out to eat. We had to wait 2 hours before being seated and then another hour to get our food. It was not the most pleasant of Mother’s days, but I still love my family and wouldn’t have it any other way –except food my way!

    ((hugs))

  4. Suz says

    Monday, May 13, 2013 at 7:05 pm

    Lolli…finally someone who did NOT have a perfect Mother’s Day. My kids are grown up, and years ago, I really adjusted to expecting nothing and then I was not disappointed. But, I have a son on a mission in Korea, and I had invited all my in town kids and grandkids and our moms to share in our skype talk. That call would make up for everything. Hubby started the night before with flowers from the grocery store…I have always hated flowers…I would rather get nothing…and he knows it. I sweetly thanked him though. I usually get up at 4 am every day to get everything done, get him up for work, and prepare to watch my sweet baby granddaughter. I just wanted to sleep a bit. He woke me up…needed some help. Later he was studying for a lesson, and wanted me to make cookies for him. I did. Got ready for church. Got his stuff ready. church was busy. Home…I hurridly made dinner so we could be ready to call Korea. Family came, ate my food, talked during the call that I could barely hear, and then left and I had to clean up. Oldest child didn’t call,nor any of my out of town grandkids. Worst part was hearing over and over how your wife was to feel special…and I surely didn’t. I was worrying if everyone else was happy…hubby, kids, missionary…and I was forgotten. Thank you just for sharing that Mother’s Days are not always perfect, or even great…and to just enjoy what you get…

  5. Günther says

    Monday, May 13, 2013 at 6:26 pm

    I wonder why parents have children. I have a brother who is 18 years younger then I am. He seem to antagonize my parents on purpose. He got caught with possession and drunk driving. I saw what that did to my mother

    When your son says he hates you he does not know how to express his emotion. So he chooses he hates you
    Your kid is just testing you. I would have wracked him in the rear end

  6. Heather O. says

    Monday, May 13, 2013 at 1:45 pm

    Oh mama, I can commiserate! My Mother’s Day started out beautifully, and my girls were really trying to be good to one another. But somewhere around mid-afternoon, my oldest couldn’t take all of the niceness anymore and began trying to pick a fight. It ended with her screaming that I’m “mean” and a lecture for her from my husband about how crappy she made me feel and how this was supposed to be my special day. What a way to end Mother’s Day, eh? I agree with you that there’s too much pressure to have Mother’s Day be a perfect day, just for mom… it’s just not something most of us can accomplish, and then we’re left feeling like we (or our husband and kids) failed at the holiday.

  7. christieo says

    Monday, May 13, 2013 at 11:22 am

    Oh Lolli. I would have come to your rescue! (whispering) I love my kids, but some of my most peaceful Mother’s Day moments are when I head to the spa or the tea room with my mom for some quiet time the day before Mother’s Day so that I can handle the crazy on Mother’s Day. :) Perhaps we should all meet for a pre-Mother’s Day Mother’s Day next year! :)

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed.

  • Facebook
  • Google+
  • Instagram
  • Pinterest
  • RSS
  • Twitter

Copyright © 2025 · Foodie Pro Theme by Shay Bocks · Built on the Genesis Framework · Powered by WordPress

This website uses cookies to improve your experience. We'll assume you're ok with this, but you can opt-out if you wish.Accept Read More
Privacy & Cookies Policy

Privacy Overview

This website uses cookies to improve your experience while you navigate through the website. Out of these cookies, the cookies that are categorized as necessary are stored on your browser as they are essential for the working of basic functionalities of the website. We also use third-party cookies that help us analyze and understand how you use this website. These cookies will be stored in your browser only with your consent. You also have the option to opt-out of these cookies. But opting out of some of these cookies may have an effect on your browsing experience.
Privacy Overview

This website uses cookies to improve your experience while you navigate through the website. Out of these cookies, the cookies that are categorized as necessary are stored on your browser as they are essential for the working of basic functionalities of the website. We also use third-party cookies that help us analyze and understand how you use this website. These cookies will be stored in your browser only with your consent. You also have the option to opt-out of these cookies. But opting out of some of these cookies may have an effect on your browsing experience.

Necessary Always Enabled

Necessary cookies are absolutely essential for the website to function properly. This category only includes cookies that ensures basic functionalities and security features of the website. These cookies do not store any personal information.

Non-necessary

Any cookies that may not be particularly necessary for the website to function and is used specifically to collect user personal data via analytics, ads, other embedded contents are termed as non-necessary cookies. It is mandatory to procure user consent prior to running these cookies on your website.